Lovers

Am I turning a blind eye to sexual predation? Of course not, but everything being asserted today as being some sort of sordid sexual predation definitely is not. There are levels, from innocent to wrong beyond question, and they seem to have become badly conflated. Almost any man has a tendency to become a cad in certain situations, but let’s separate out the evil sexual predators like Bill Clinton from the crass clods like Al Franken and the innocent men just being men like Judge Roy Moore.

Bill Clinton didn’t just harass his victims or touch them inappropriately, he mauled and raped many of them completely against their will as the woman was adamantly protesting and begging him to stop. He lured those women into compromising situations under false pretenses and violently attacked them, sometimes raping them, then callously joked about what he’d done to them afterward, expecting his political position to insulate him from any repercussions. That’s a level of wrongdoing that should be prosecuted.

Monica Lewinski was probably one of those women as well as Juanita Broderick. Why? Blatant evidence: Monica kept the dress, then presented it as proof. A woman comfortable with the situation Monica found herself in with Clinton wouldn’t have kept that dress, and she certainly wouldn’t have presented it as evidence against him later. To live with herself at the time, she may have justified the situation she found herself in with Clinton by convincing herself she was “in love” with him and, besides, being favorably spoken of by the President could give her career a real boost, but the telltale dress proves her justification of being in love with him was a lie, and we all know what happened to her career after that dress was presented as evidence.

On the other hand, Al Franken and others touched inappropriately, made crass gags and probably comments, this used to be called “taking liberties” or “being an oaf”. That the women didn’t immediately slap them down with the counter, “How dare you! I’m not that kind of woman! Don’t ever do that again!” made it partly their fault for putting up with his disrespectful actions, something no respectable woman should allow, though the cloddish man should never have done it and he’s definitely to blame for his own actions. Except for incidents like the sleeping actress and Al Franken, when the burden for protecting the honor of the actress fell on whoever took that gag photo of Franken posing like he was groping her breasts; that person bears much of the blame for letting him do it, and probably egging him on while photographing it, as Franken did for doing it in the first place. Since no actual groping occurred, it was primarily crass. Why would anyone with two active brain cells think that was funny? It brings Franken’s intelligence into question more than anything else.

Women were once trained to handle disrespectful situations swiftly, defending their honor in no uncertain terms. With such disrespectful men who are testing the waters to see what they can get away with, that’s enough, they’ll back off, usually with some sort of apology, even if a weak one, and be more mannerly, at least with that woman, from then on. We used to say men like that were raised in a barn and all their brains were in the wrong head (think anatomy). Actually, that type of man is trainable and able to change for the better.

That’s the dividing line between the sexual predator and the unthinking clod. A sexual predator doesn’t care about the woman, women are just things, possessions, to a man like that, something to be used and abused any way he wants. Nothing the woman says in protest makes any difference to a sexual predator, and often her physically resisting him excites him more, because he gets a thrill out of her obvious distress. His attack is as much about the power of domination as about sex. He sees her as only something to be possessed, used and abused as his urges dictate and then discarded. That type of man, a man like Bill Clinton, should be in prison.

My worry is that all these accusations, mixing what is completely innocent male behavior with the actions of unthinking clods or true sexual predators, are having the effect of making it a criminal offense to be a man. A compliment is not sexual assault, and dating a girl who has reached the legal “age of consent” is not pedophilia, This has turned into a witch hunt against all men and, for the good of society, it must stop!

Under the following link you will find a listing of State-by-State Marriage “Age of Consent” Laws. Why do I bring this up? Because of the accusations levelled against Judge Roy Moore. The listing states:

“Alabama — The age of consent is sixteen (16). With parental consent, parties can marry at age fourteen (14). However, this parental consent is not required if the minor has already been married. (Other statutory laws apply.) Common law marriage is recognized.”

I don’t usually quote an entire page, but in defense of all men in every state, I think it’s needed.

State-by-State Marriage “Age of Consent” Laws – FindLaw

State-by-State Marriage “Age of Consent” Laws

The following is a state-by-state summary of the “age of consent” for marriage and other pertinent marriage information for the fifty states, the District of Columbia, and Puerto Rico

Alabama The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at age fourteen. However, this parental consent is not required if the minor has already been married. (Other statutory laws apply.) Common law marriage is recognized.
Alaska The age of consent is sixteen. Parties can marry at a younger age, also with parental consent. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Arizona The age of consent is eighteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at the age of sixteen. Parties can marry at a younger age, but with both parental and judicial consent.
Arkansas The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, females under the age of sixteen can marry with parental consent and can receive a license by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child.
California The age of consent is eighteen. With parental consent, there are no age limits regarding the minimum age for a couple to marry. (Other statutory laws apply.) California offers some spousal rights for registered same-sex domestic partners.
Colorado The age of consent is seventeen. Parties can marry at a younger age, also with parental consent. Common law marriage is recognized.
Connecticut The age of consent is sixteen in most relationships (except where one party is in a position of authority over the younger party).Parties can marry at a younger age, but with both parental and judicial consent. Like Vermont (see below), Connecticut permits same sex couples to be parties to a “civil union.”
Delaware The age of consent is eighteen. Males can marry under the age of eighteen with parental consent and under the age of seventeen can receive a license by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child. With parental consent, females can marry at age sixteen and under the age of sixteen can apply for and receive a license by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Florida The age of consent is eighteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at age sixteen and parties under the age of sixteen can receive a license by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child. However, this parental consent is not required if the minor has already been married. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Georgia The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent and/or the consent of a judge, parties can marry at a younger age and receive a license by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child. Common law marriages are not recognized except for those that were entered into before 1997.
Hawaii The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent and/or the consent of a judge, parties can marry at age fifteen. Hawaii offers some spousal rights for registered same-sex domestic partners. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Idaho The age of consent is eighteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at age sixteen. Common law marriages are not recognized except for those that were entered into before 1997.
Illinois The age of consent is seventeen. With parental consent, parties can marry at age sixteen. If parents refuse to consent, judicial consent may be obtained on behalf of the parties. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Indiana The age of consent is sixteen. Parties under the age of sixteen can receive a license by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child. Common law marriages are not recognized except for those that were entered into before 1958.
Iowa The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent and/or the consent of a judge, parties can marry at a younger age. Common law marriage is recognized.
Kansas The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent and/or the consent of a judge, males can marry at age fourteen and females at age twelve. Common law marriage is recognized.
Kentucky The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent and/or the consent of a judge, parties can marry under sixteen years of age. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Louisiana The age of consent is seventeen. Parties under seventeen years of age can marry with parental consent. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Maine The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at a younger age. Maine offers some spousal rights to registered same-sex domestic partners. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Maryland The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at a younger age and younger parties may receive a license by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child. Parties giving consent must appear in person to give consent and provide proof of age if the parties seeking marriage are at least sixteen years old. Also, if one of the parents giving consent is ill both an affidavit by the ill parent and from a physician is required to submit. Common law marriage is recognized.
Massachusetts The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent and/or the consent of a judge, males can marry at fourteen years of age and females can marry at the age of twelve. On May 17, 2004, Massachusetts became the first state to recognize same-sex marriage. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Michigan The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at a younger age. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Minnesota The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent and/or the consent of the judge, parties can marry at a younger age. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Mississippi The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent and/or the consent of the judge, males can marry at age seventeen and females can marry at age fifteen. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Missouri The age of consent is seventeen. With parental consent, parties can marry at age fifteen and younger parties may receive a license by reason of special circumstances. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Montana The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent and/or consent of a judge, parties can marry at a younger age and younger parties may receive a license by reason of special circumstances. Common law marriage is recognized.
Nebraska The age of consent is seventeen. With parental consent, parties can marry at a younger age. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Nevada The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at a younger age. Common law marriage is not recognized.
New Hampshire The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent and the consent of the judge, males can marry at age fourteen and females can marry at age thirteen. Common law marriage is not recognized.
New Jersey The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at a younger age. Also, younger parties may receive a license by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child or other special circumstances. New Jersey offers some spousal rights to registered same-sex domestic partners. Common law marriage is not recognized.
New Mexico The age of consent is seventeen. With parental consent, parties can marry at age sixteen and younger parties may receive a license by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child or other special circumstances. Common law marriage is not recognized.
New York The age of consent is seventeen. With parental and judicial consent, parties can marry at age sixteen. Common law marriage is not recognized.
North Carolina The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at a younger age and younger parties may receive a license by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child. Common law marriage is not recognized.
North Dakota The age of consent is eighteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at age sixteen. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Ohio The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, males and females under the age of 16 can marry and younger parties may receive a license by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Oklahoma The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, parties can marry a younger age and younger parties may receive a license by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child. Common law marriage is recognized.
Oregon The age of consent is eighteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at age seventeen with the exception that if one party does not have a parent who resides in the state and one party has been a resident in Oregon for at least six months, then no permission is necessary. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Pennsylvania The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at a younger age and younger parties may receive a license by reason of special circumstances. Common law marriage is recognized.
Rhode Island The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent males can marry under age sixteen, females at fourteen, and younger parties may receive a license under special circumstances. Common law marriage is recognized.
South Carolina The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, males and females may marry at a younger age and younger parties may receive a license by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child. Common law marriage is recognized.
South Dakota The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at a younger age and younger parties may receive a license by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Tennessee The age of consent is eighteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at age sixteen. Under special circumstances, younger minors can receive a license to marry. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Texas The age of consent is seventeen. With parental and judicial consent, parties can marry but not below the age of fourteen for males and thirteen for females. Common law marriage is recognized.
Utah The age of consent is eighteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at age fourteen. However, this parental consent is not required if the minor has already been married. In addition, each county is authorized to provide premarital counseling before issuing a marriage license to applicants under the age of eighteen and those who are divorced. Common law marriage is recognized.
Vermont The age of consent is sixteen. With parental or judicial consent, parties can marry a younger age. Common law marriage is not recognized. In addition, a Vermont law, the first in the country, permits same-sex couples to be parties to a “civil union.”
Virginia The age of consent is eighteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at age sixteen and under the age of sixteen may receive a license by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Washington The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at a younger age under special circumstances (such as the birth of a child). Common law marriage is not recognized.
West Virginia The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, parties under the age of sixteen may receive a license at a younger age by reason of pregnancy or the birth of a child. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Wisconsin The age of consent is eighteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at age sixteen. Common law marriage is not recognized.
Wyoming The age of consent is seventeen. With parental consent, parties can marry at a younger age. They may obtain a license and marry at a younger age under special circumstances. Common law marriage is not recognized.
District Of Columbia The age of consent is sixteen. With parental consent, parties can marry at a younger age. However, this parental consent is not required if the minor has already been married. The District of Columbia offers some rights to registered same-sex domestic partners. Common law marriage is recognized.
Puerto Rico The age of consent is sixteen. Parties younger than sixteen may marry with parental consent. Younger males and females can marry with parental consent and receive a license by reason of pregnancy, the birth of a child, or other special circumstances. Common law marriage is not recognized.
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